Stop begging anyone for the love, respect, and attention that you should be showing yourself Just be your own best friend. Trust your inner spirit and follow your instincts. Accept who you are completely, the good and the bad, and make changes in your life as YOU see fit, not because anyone else wants you to be different, but because you know it’s the right thing to do, for YOU. Be the person you will be happy to live with for the duration of your life. Don’t rely on anyone else, for your happiness and self- worth. Remember if you can’t love and respect yourself, no one else will be able to either.
Have the freedom of choice.
The minute you stop overwhelming your mind with caring about what everyone else thinks , and start doing what you feel in your heart is right, is the minute you will finally feel freedom and peace of mind. In fact, you can end half your troubles immediately by no longer permitting people to tell you what you want. You have to put your life in your own hands. Others may be able hold your happiness hostage temporarily, but only you can do it permanently.
Let go of old grudges.
You will never find peace until you learn to finally let go of the hatred and hurt that lives in your heart. Life is far too short to be spent in nursing bitterness and registering wrongs. Grudges are for those who insist that they are owed something; forgiveness, on the other hand, is for those who are confident enough to stand on their own two legs and move on. Nothing empowers your ability to heal and grow as much as your love and forgiveness
Remember that the way you’ve always done it isn’t the only way. In the end it’s the chances we didn’t take, the relationships we were to afraid to have and the decision we waited to long to make that we will regret most. It’s time to figure something else out. There is a new experience waiting for you. You just have to see the opportunity and be adventurous enough to run with it.
Stop Being a Control Freak
Life is often unpredictable. Some of the great moments in your life won’t necessarily be the things you do; they’ll be things that happen to you. That doesn’t mean you can’t take action to affect the outcome of your life. You have to take action, and you will. But don’t forget that on any day, you can step out the front door and your whole life can change in an instant, for better or worse. To an extent, the universe has a plan that’s always in motion. It’s a scary thought, but it’s part of life’s cycle. All these little parts of the machine, constantly working , sometimes forcing you to struggle, and sometimes making sure you end up exactly in the right place at the right time
Stop Giving In To Fear
When you give in to fear you rob yourself the chance to love, to belong, to empathy, to creativity, to adventure and all of life’ s goodness. Every worthwhile venture in life, intimate love, friendship, a new business, is scary. These things are inherently risky, unsafe and for the faint of heart. They take courage. And most importantly, they can’t coexist with fear. When you open up to life’s greatest opportunities and joys it means you’re also giving life the opportunity to break your heart , but trusting that it won ’t… that the risk is well worth taking.
Enjoy your own company
This is something we all struggle with sometimes. It’ s also the root cause of nearly all of our unhappiness. One of the hardest challenges we face in life is to simply live in our own skin to just be right here, right now, regardless of where we are. Begin by just noticing with curiosity, and without judgment, all of the ways in which you avoid being in your own skin, right here, right now, in this present moment we call life.
Do let the sun go down on anger.
Always scrupulously air every irritation as soon as possible, to make sure you vent all bad feelings before bedtime. Expressing anger related to minor, fleeting annoyances just amplifies bad feelings, while not expressing anger often allows it to dissipate.
Fake it till you feel it.
Feelings follow actions. If you are feeling low, deliberately act cheery, and you will find yourself actually feeling happier. If you are feeling angry at someone, do something thoughtful for them and your feelings toward them will soften. This strategy is uncannily effective.