Maybe you have come to realize that sometimes people hurt us intentionally and sometimes even without intending it, they hurt us anyway. Sometimes we see some action as a personal attack on who we are, simple disagreements, any negative or unkind word. Not taking things personally is difficult. So how does one go about it? How does one get rid of this notion of a personal attack when we feel everyone is out to get us?

As I usually say it begins with us. Make it you goal to get know yourself, your strengths and weaknesses. Identify the things that you need to change and the things that you do well. When you know yourself better than anyone, you have clarity about whether the statements people make are honest about you or are really, just about them.

Give yourself a chance not only to be your biggest fan but also your critic so that you see yourself as you really are, and not a representation of someone else view. If the view of yourself is based on how others see you and not how you see yourself is one that is fickle and weak. Let your sense of self comes from within. When you know this to be true, you’ll find that most things are not worth taking personally.

Work it out within you to be compassionate to yourself and to others. Look for the best in people, no matter how they choose to see you. Treat them how you always want to be treated without any expectation that they ought to treat you the same. When you see yourself, you will see someone beautiful, someone capable, someone caring and kind.

If you take every insult or rude slur of your fellow human beings personally, you will be offended for the rest of your life, not everyone will support you. We don’t have to agree with everyone, everyone doesn’t have to agree with us, and that’s cool. The only approval you need is your own. So give up worrying too much about what others think of you.

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