Fear stifles our thinking and actions. It creates indecisiveness that results in stagnation. I have known talented people who procrastinate indefinitely rather than risk failure. Lost opportunities cause erosion of confidence, and the downward spiral begins. Charles Stanley
Overcoming fear doesn’t happen instantly or automatically. It is the result of deliberate intention, and conscious action towards doing things that scares you. As a result of overcoming your fears, you grow as a person, and expand the possibilities that surround your life.
So how does one go about taking risks and overcoming fear? Here are some tools to use whenever confronted with a choice between playing it safe or leaping off the cliff into the unknown.
• Awareness/ Identify. Before you can begin overcoming fear, you have to know that they are causing mayhem in your life. It’s easy to get so attached to your thoughts and feelings that you think they are all that exist, which couldn’t be further from the truth. Find out the real root of your fear. Get specific about what exactly you’re afraid of. Look at the pictures you have in your head about the situation. Become an observer of your inner space.
• Inquisitiveness. While curiosity may have killed the cat, it certainly won’t do you any harm when investigating your fears. Get curious about what thoughts generate your fear, where do you feel the fear, and how do you react to it? Again, be an observer of what is going on.
• Gratitude. Whenever you feel fear, switch it over to what you are grateful for instead. Be grateful for the opportunity given and all your fear will start to fade away.
• Take Action. Fears are created by your imagination to make reality seem scarier than it is. When you take action and face your fears, they become weaker, because you realize that reality isn’t nearly as bad as your imagination.
• Positivity. Whenever fear strikes, flip it over. Instead of thinking of something bad that can happen, think of something positive. What’s a positive outcome to your fear? Find the silver lining so to say. Learning to deal with fear is all about putting your negative thoughts in perspective. We tend to focus too much on the negative, so by looking at all the options, you often realize that you’re making a big deal of nothing.
• Release Control. We want control and predictability, even though it’s impossible to get. Where we don’t have control, we experience fear. It’s not possible to know or predict the outcome of every action or choice and to think it’s so is just an illusion. Give up the illusion of control, and you’re free.
• Pray If you are religious, you may want to consider praying for guidance on how to start overcoming your specific fear. Sometimes our fears are spiritual in nature.
Whatever fears you’re facing, the only thing that matters is that you listen to yourself, and your conscience.