You are the sum total of your thoughts and actions, they define who you are. What you repeatedly do becomes your habits and they can either help or hurt you. Here are a few examples of habits that will steal your happiness and progress if you let them:
Procrastination – We have two choices when we wake up in the morning: either we go back to sleep and dream, or we wake up and chase that dream. Look up and see that the sun is shining bright, and that today is another perfect opportunity to take action and pursue our dreams.
Focusing on everyone’s story except your own – Don’t be so satisfied with the success stories of others and how things have gone for them that you forget your own. Unfold your own story and bring it to life. You have everything you need to become what you are capable of becoming. Incredible change happens when you decide to take control. This means consuming less and creating more. It means learning to respect and use your own ideas and instincts.
Waiting for the perfect moment – the perfect moment is a myth, moments aren’t perfect; they’re what you make them. Don’t wait for the perfect moment, the perfect opportunity, the perfect state of being, act now. your ability to grow to your highest potential is directly related to your willingness to act in the face of imperfection. You will come to succeed not by finding a perfect moment, but by learning to see and use life’s imperfections perfectly
Working for nothing more than a pay cheque – Work without interest is imprisonment. When you have a lifestyle in which your work is something you suffer through daily strictly to pay your bills, you end up spending your entire life wishing you had someone else’s. Don’t settle for a pay cheque, find work that interests you.
Harboring hatred – Truth be told, when we harbor feelings of hate, it eventually gets the best of us. It takes control of us. We forget why we hate, what we hate, and whom we hate – we simply hate for the sake of hating. And then, naturally, we begin to hate ourselves too. Remember when you gaze into an abyss, it gazes back.
Holding tight to worries and fears – Someday when you look back over your life you’ll realize that nearly all of your worries and anxious fears never came to realization – they were completely unfounded. So why not wake up and realize this right now. Don’t fix chains to your own ankles. It’s incredibly easy to enjoy more of your life right now, no matter what the situation. It’s just a matter of letting go of nonsense that is weighing you down.
Being overly critical of yourself – If you feel like everyone is judging you all the time, realize that we often feel this way when we are too busy judging ourselves.
Giving up – Never let go of hope. Remember what you deserve and keep up the good fight. Someday all the pieces will come together. Even if everything doesn’t turn out exactly the way you had anticipated, you will look back at the times that have passed, smile, and ask yourself, “How did I get through all of that?”
Dwelling on difficulties – A bad day is just a bad day. Choose not to make it anything more. Times of adversity will inevitably affect the conditions in which you live and work; yet you don’t have to let it affect who you are and where you’re headed. Take note of the setbacks and adjust to them, but don’t expand on them by making them a bigger part of your life.
Constantly seeking instants gratification – long-term gratification sustains itself through life’s ups and downs, because through them your mind remains confident and at peace.
Trying to take Giant steps all at once – If you want to make a difference in the world, start with the world around you. Making a big difference all at once is usually impossible, and the process of trying is extremely stressful. You just have to focus on one moment at a time, start by making baby steps. Work to make a bunch of small splashes, and let the ripples spread naturally.
Holding on to toxic people and relationships – Sometimes you have to walk away from people, not because you don’t care, but because they don’t. When someone hurts you time and time again, accept the fact that they don’t care about you. It’s a tough pill to swallow, but it’s necessary medicine. Do NOT strive to impress them any further. Waste not another second of your time trying to prove something to them. Nothing needs to be proven.
Letting everyone else decide for you – Don’t let other people put you on a leash, Set your own boundaries and run freely within them. Even when thing spin out of control, make up your own rules as you go, this is your own life and no one should live it for you.
Doubting your own dreams – It doesn’t matter what your hope is, whether it is to find lasting love, start a business, achieve forgiveness, find inner peace, or something else. The first step – and often the longest, most difficult one – is to believe that your dream is possible.