“Life is a theater so invite your audiences carefully. Not everyone should have a FRONT ROW seat in our lives. There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance. It’s amazing what you can accomplish when you let go, or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not- going-anywhere relationships, friendships and family! so we must be careful to choose the people we hang out with, as well as the information with which we feed our minds. We should not share our dreams with negative people, nor feed our dreams with negative thoughts. It is your choice and your life. It is up to you, who and what you let in.” Grant Brenner MD

We are social creatures and as such we are sorounded by other people through out our life.  They influence our behavior and choices we make. Some of this influence is positive but  there are also plenty of people who are less than emotionally healthy,the kind who manipulate, lie, and cheat. Definitely the ones you want stay far away from them as their influence can only cast a dark shadow in our lives.

To excel in life we must start by identifying this type of people and eliminating them from our life. Identifying toxicity in others is crucial but it’s just as if not more important to identify these traits in yourself. Here are few characteristics of toxic people to help you recognize them.

Toxic people are control freaks.
Toxic people try to control you. They look for ways to control others, either through covert methods or subtle manipulation.

Toxic people disregard your boundaries.
Respecting the boundaries of others comes naturally to well adjusted adults. The toxic person thrives on violating them.

Toxic people take without giving.
true friendship is based on the principle of give and take but this does not hold true for toxic people. they tend to take without giving anything in return.

Toxic people are always “right.”
No matter how big or small the topic, the toxic individual doesn’t allow room for differing opinions and turns a discussion into a debate that must be won. They’re going to find ways to be right even when they’re not.

Toxic people aren’t honest.
Toxic people are always lying and covering up the truth, they are always caught up in a web of repeated patterns of dishonesty.

Toxic people love to be victims.
All of his or her problems are someone else’s fault. they Constantly shift blame and lack of personal responsibility.

They tend to hate everything.
Negative people rarely see goodness anywhere.
Finding the downside of anything is their specialty. They tend to negate without discrimination even when they have noo personal experience.

They believe their experience is for everyone.
Toxic people have a habit as using their experience as the benchmark. They will recount their sad stories to serve as proof of life’s injustices. Not only will they use them as a compass for their own navigation, they will use it to judge yours as well. If their business failed, it’s the reason you shouldn’t start a business. If their heart was broken, you need to run the other way in your relationship.

The person likes to gossip.
Rumormongering serves no purpose except to harm others’ reputations and an attempt to burnish one’s own. This type of toxic people will have 411 once every person and nothing will pass them off. They will taint your reputation without hesitation and you can’t possibly trust them with your secrets.

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