Forgiveness is the most powerful thing that you can do for your physiology and your spirituality. Yet, it remains one of the least attractive things to us.
Forgiving someone doesn’t mean condoning their behavior. It doesn’t mean forgetting how they hurt you or giving that person room to hurt you again. Forgiving someone means making peace with what happened. It means acknowledging your wound, giving yourself permission to feel the pain, and recognizing why that pain no longer serves you. It means letting go of the hurt and resentment so that you can heal and move on. Not because what happened didn’t matter, but because harboring that level of anger and bitterness take up too much energy and cause too much pain. You don’t need any more pain. You need to heal. And
in order to do that, you need to forgive. Not for them, but for you.” ~ Daniell Koepke
So, why should you forgive?
1. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong ~ Gandhi
2. You have the power to forgive.
3. Its a gift to yourself.
4. You get the chance to be free.
5. It gives you peace of mind.
We cannot embrace God’s forgiveness if we
are so busy clinging to past wounds and
nursing old grudges.
T. D. Jakes
So how do you go about the process of forgiveness? Here are few easy steps.
Know exactly how you feel about what happened and be able to articulate what about the situation is not right with you. Then, share with a trusted person about your experience.
Make a commitment to yourself to do what you have to do to feel better. Forgiveness is for you and not for anyone else.
Forgiveness does not necessarily mean reconciliation with the person that hurt you, or condoning of their action. What you are after is to find peace.
Get the right perspective on what is happening.
Recognize that your primary distress is coming from the hurt feelings, thoughts and physical upset you are suffering now, not what offended you or hurt you in the past. You prolong your suffering by not forgiving.
Give up expecting things from other people, or your life, that they do not choose to give you.
Remember that a life well lived is your best revenge. Instead of focusing on your wounded feelings, and thereby giving the person who caused you pain power over you, learn to look for the love, beauty and kindness around you. Forgiveness is about personal power.
Finally remember you are the author of your destiny by the choices you make. Be a hero in your narrative, choose to forgive.