My child, learn to accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go, no one else. The only way to live a powerful life is to accept the responsibility of being in charge of your life. You can ease through life, placing your will in the hands of others and receive some great things from doing so. But one thing you will never receive from doing this is the fulfillment of making life your own. To avoid living in this way you have to stay away from making excuses. Though there may be some good excuses for you to use, there is always going to be someone out there with the same amount of problems or more, who is able to live life in the manner that they desire because they were willing to work for it. Quit being quick to place the blame on everything around you, and become aware of how much power you have by figuring out who you are, and going towards the purpose that God has made for your life..
My child, lrlife may not always turn out the way you wished it to be. But no matter what happens, no matter how far you seem to be away from where you want to be, never stop believing that you will somehow make it. Have a unrelenting belief that things will work out, that the long road has a purpose, that the things that you desire may not happen today, but they will happen. Persist and persevere, your desired path remains possible. You may not see it at that moment or the next one, but you will look back in a few years and be absolutely perplexed and awed by how every little thing added up and brought you somewhere wonderful or where you always wanted to be. You will realize that everything happened for a reason. You will be grateful that things didn’t work out the way you once wanted them to.
Do not fret. Feelings fading, and people changing is a part of life, you are growing as a person, but not everyone will grow with you. You don’t have to forget your past, instead learn from it and use this wisdom to choose the people who will surround you in the future.
Don’t let anyone bring you down so low as to hate them. Release them from the hold they have on you and continue on with peace in your heart. Life is short and is not worth wasting your time trying to figure people out or prove anything to them. The only person you have to prove anything to is yourself. Strive to be the best person you can possibly be, be strong, and walk away. Holding on to bitterness and anger will only hinder your happiness. Your life is much too precious to spend another minute worrying about someone that doesn’t bring you happiness. Say goodbye and wish them well. After all, they’ve made you a stronger person. They’ll see the light someday.
As you get older you find out that true happiness is not in how much you make or how many degrees you have or how big your house is or how fancy your car is. It’s finding peace and joy and calmness in your life that will soon become the most important thing to you. Your family is what matters to you. Things that are of quality not of quantity. Remember the greatest reflection of your priorities is your time. Whatever you say about, what matters to you, the true test is where you place your time. So if you say your priorities are your partner or your kids or your family or your health, that statement will only be true if your calendar reflects it.
There’s so much more to life than finding someone who will want you, or being sad over someone who doesn’t. There’s a lot of wonderful time to be spent discovering yourself without hoping someone will fall inlove with you along the way, and it doesn’t need to be painful or empty. You need to fill yourself up with love. Not anyone else. Become a whole being on your own. Go on adventures, sit in a coffee shop on your own, dress up for yourself, give to others, and smile a lot. Live for yourself and be happy on your own. It isn’t any less beautiful, I promise.
If you meet someone and they are not perfect. Remember you aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if they can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if they admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her/her and give her/him the most you can. She/he isn’t going to quote poetry, she/he’s not thinking about you every moment, but she/he will give you a part of her/his that she/he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him/her, don’t change him/her, and don’t expect for more than she/he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when she/he makes you happy, yell when she/he makes you mad, and miss him/her when she/he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect people don’t exist, but there’s always one person that is perfect for you.