Anger is an essential part of being human. People are taught to deny themselves anger, and in this, they are actually opening themselves up to hate. The more you deny yourself the freedom to be angry, the more you will hate. Let yourself be angry, and hate will disintegrate, and when hate disintegrates, forgiveness prevails! The more you deny that you are angry, in attempts to be “holy” the more inhuman you will become, and the more inhuman you will become, the harder it will be to forgive.
It has happened to each and every one of us to be hurt by someone and maybe the thing we all may have in common is the fact that, we just can’t or don’t want to offer forgiveness to those that have wronged us. But If you want to live a long and happy life, then you must be willing to forgive the unforgivable. Remembered that doesn’t mean you excuse the crime. It just means you’re no longer willing to be the victim.
Forgiveness is truly the kindest thing you can do for yourself. Your enemy may not deserve to be forgiven for all the pain and suffering purposefully inflicted on your life, but you deserve to be freed from this burden!
To do this you will have to take the good with the bad, smile when you’re sad, love what you’ve got and remember what you had. Always forgive but never forget, learn from all your experiences but never regret, people change, things go wrong, just remember, life goes on. And someday you will forget the hurt, the reason you cried, and who caused you pain. You will finally realize that the secret of being free is not revenge, but letting things unfold in their own way and own time. After all, what matters is not the first, but the last chapter of your life which shows how well you ran the race. So smile, laugh, forgive, believe, and love all over again.
Anger is like flowing water; there’s nothing wrong with it as long as you let it flow. Hate is like stagnant water; anger that you denied yourself the freedom to feel, the freedom to flow; water that you gathered in one place and left to forget. Stagnant water becomes dirty, stinky, disease- ridden, poisonous, deadly; that is your hate. On flowing water travels little paper boats; paper boats of forgiveness. Allow yourself to feel anger, allow your waters to flow, along with all the paper boats of forgiveness. Be human.